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Friday, September 12, 2014

One of the most powerful genealogical sentences I've read in a long time: "his real family isn't his biological one" (by Julia Belluz)

"his real family isn't his biological one" (by Julia Belluz)


This is a one of the most powerful sentences I have read about genealogy in a long time. It rings so true, especially when you try to stand in the shoes of people who are adopted. Bloodlines in family history are just one part of genealogy, in my view. Who is your "real mother"? Who is your "real father"? These are seemingly simple, direct questions but they imply a lot. Talking to someone whose "real mother" or "real father" is their biological parent is only one side of a possible story. Other people have been brought up by their non-biological parents, their answers to these two simple questions may not refer to their biological parents. It's a messy, complex, emotional business.

Who are your real parents? Just that simple little question includes so many underlying assumptions.

Source of Creative Commons image: http://mrg.bz/0rFJ2k
(by Jan Fidler, http://morguefile.com/)

I've known quite a few people who were adopted at a young age, raised and loved by a family that is not linked to them biologically. These people have taught me a lot, especially about what not to assume. Someone's "real mother" or "real father" may well be parents who are or were their "real parents" but not their biological parents. Biological links matter to differing degrees to different people, I suppose. However, we can get into dangerous territory when a one-approach-fits-all mentality gets used. Not everyone on this planet thinks family history is just about whose blood we have in our veins.

Thanks to Pauleen Cass for sharing a story on Facebook, an article by Julia Belluz, about the possible negative impacts of seeking out information about your DNA.



This article is well worth a read. It's a long article but interesting, with plenty of illustrative stories. Whoever reads this article, I imagine, will be reminded of varying issues, depending on their own life experiences. For me, it reminded me of the complexity and emotional layers involved in adoption issues. For adopted people, the complexity and emotion must be multiplied by hundreds, compared to what people who haven't been adopted think about this issue.

Comments like "you're adopted!" as an insult, are hurtful but not in the way you may think. I have witnessed many times someone or another jokingly saying "You're adopted!" to a person nearby (for all sorts of reasons). I have also witnessed the impact this has on people who are adopted, standing nearby. The comment may not have been directed at them but it can be hurtful in a secondary type of way, often unintended. It's hurtful - because the implication is often a negative one. It shouldn't be, but it often is.

I love genealogy and I love the idea of finding out more about my ancestry at any opportunity - whether the information is founded on DNA or not. I suppose if we investigate our own DNA, we are willing to be asked, "Who do you think you are?" I suppose, then, that we have to be ready to deal with finding out, "Not who I thought I was (genetically)".

One thing's for sure, genealogy is not just the research about our "bloodlines". I don't reckon it ever was.

And another thing's for sure, finding out about our DNA is not just about us.

And yet another thing's for sure, genealogy is never boring.

And one more thing ... don't you just love genealogy!

OK, I'll get off my soapbox now.

I'm still keen to "get my DNA done" one day ... how about you? What do you think about this bizo?


A young uncle had a short but loving life

This blogpost is dedicated to my Uncle Barry. He was a big part of our family during his 31 years on this earth.

Gregory William ‘Barry’ Northcote (1935-1967)






 Gregory William ‘Barry’ Northcote was born on 12 October 1935 to Leo Bertie Bede NORTHCOTE and Ellen 'Nellie' Maria KENEALLY. He was their much loved son and a much loved brother of my father, Carew Joseph Trevor NORTHCOTE.


  



Barry was born with Down Syndrome which sometimes made his life a challenge but he still found plenty of enjoyment and his family adored him.












One of my favourite stories about Uncle Barry is about the night he first met my Mum, Margaret, who became his sister-in-law. Mum told me this story recently. Apparently, one of the first things he said to her was, "Come with me. I want to show you the moon"


He was two years older than Mum and was immensely proud of that! Here they are together on a day out.




With the whole family: Barry, his Dad (Leo), his Mum (Nellie) and brother (Carew).



My memories of Uncle Barry are from a child's eyes because he died when I was about 4 years of age. I remember him taking me for a walk up the road from his house in Five Dock, where he lived with his parents. I also remember his hugs.

Our Uncle Barry died on 5 January 1967 at the age of 31.  He had a short life but he had a big impact on those around him.






He was buried on 10 January 1967 at the Field of Mars Catholic cemetery where he lies alongside his parents and his grandmother, Margaret Ann NORTHCOTE (nee RILEY).











Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Clooney in County Clare

Although we aren't sure if our BUTLER family lived in the Clooney area of County Clare, I've included the pics I took of the area during my recent trip to Ireland, when I drove from Tulla to Kilmihil:

Tulla to Kilmihil, via Clooney




For some reason, this little old house and gate caught my eye, just near the entrance to the town of Clooney.








Some other pics of the area ...










Sunday, July 27, 2014

Step 10) Questions remaining about my BUTLER and FITZPATRICK ancestors

There are still some questions that remain ...

Exactly where did the BUTLERs live in Cragg, Craggaknock, Doolaugh, Inchicrocan and Kilmihil?

Why did the leave County Clare to live in Australia?

What happened to the mother, Mary BUTLER (nee FITZPATRICK)? Did she leave Ireland? Did she arrive in Australia? Did she sail for America? Did her ship sink on the way to America?

Where were the BUTLERs born?

Where did John BUTLER, the father of the siblings who moved to Australia, die in Ireland?

Where are my BUTLER and FITZPATRICK ancestors buried in Ireland.

That concludes my July 2014 journey around County Clare but I doubt it will be my last journey to this beautiful Irish county.

If you have any questions or find any errors in my blogposts, feel free to email me at mariaseddon@gmail.com

Step 9) Clohanes burial ground near Craggaknock (re BUTLER and FITZPATRICK ancestors)

Although I couldn't find any familiar names in this cemetery, I spent a while here checking out the various gravestones and memorial plaques.

There are certainly worse places to be buried in the world. This is a lovely cemetery, overlooking typical Irish green fields and the Atlantic Ocean.





















That concludes my County Clare journey. So what questions do I have left about my BUTLER and FITZPATRICK ancestors:

Step 10) Questions remaining about my BUTLER and FITZPATRICK ancestors

Step 8) From Kilmihil to Craggaknock (re BUTLER and FITZPATRICK ancestors)


Mary Butler was born in Craggaknock, County Clare, in 1865 of parents John BUTLER and Mary FITZPATRICK. Mary was my great grandmother's (Margaret BUTLER) sister.

Craggaknock seems to be a townland rather than an actual town. It is located just outside of Creegh, not too far from Kilmihil. It's a beautiful area with some views of the Atlantic Ocean.


Here are a few pictures of the area around Craggaknock. I made a special effort to photograph any old houses in the area.








The only definite sign, apart from the GPS, that I was in Craggaknock was the sign for this B&B.









Perhaps the BUTLERS lived in one of these old houses long ago? 





Next step on my County Clare journey: